Even after 30 years since he has been gone, it’s a rare day that I don't think of Trent. His legacy lives on in so many ways, but here are a few examples of his continuing impact on my life:

First, I can’t help but think of my friend at each glance of the “T” tattoo with the Kentucky Wildcat on my ankle. It is a permanent and regular reminder of Trent. Each time someone over the years has asked the meaning of the tattoo, I describe my larger than life friend with pride.

Second, every time I call my son Trent’s name, it’s another way for Trent’s legacy to have a constant presence in my life. Over the years I’ve had many deep conversations with my son to ensure he knows all of the wonderful traits embodied in the amazing man he was named for. I think I’ve passed on just about every Trent story I can remember and hope my son retains and shares with others as he grows older.

In addition to these daily reminders, Trent’s legacy still finds other ways to find me. A few weeks ago I was at the home of a friend who was talking about some work they do with local youth. When remembering that I was from Kentucky, he proceeded to tell me about a story he had seen on television that inspired him, and how he was using it as an example of perseverance when counseling the teens. He recounted the story of a young man who played football for UK and elevated himself on the team, yet was tragically lost too soon. I could barely respond, but slowly moved my sock to show my tattoo and explained my connection to the young man in that very story. I shared my story of Trent with added detail and emotion. When I finished, my (ironically) 6’4, 300 lb friend hugged me and said, "My God, what a small world.” At that very moment, it almost felt as if Trent had hugged me.

Trent, you will always be missed and remembered with love. Your stories… the good, the bad, and the hilarious… are told often in my family (and others). Your legacy lives on in ways I hadn’t even expected. Until we meet again, my friend.

~Bryan Hettinger